I’m rarely vulnerable. In fact, it never happens. But this topic I can’t avoid. It’s fate, and the role this day plays in my life.
This day, 10 years ago, my life changed forever.
I was barely 14 years old and I lost the only man I ever had in my life: my hero, my everyday, my laughter, my adventure, my dad.
While in the same year, I met the only man I’ll ever need in my life: my happily ever after, my every breath, my world, my happiness, my husband. (yes, we have known each other for TEN years now, been together for 8, married for 3!)
I swear by fate.
It brought my husband and I together and led us to create WEARFATE.
My dad had started a business in the city Zac and I met and moved me and my family there from my hometown only 2 weeks before he passed away.
If he had passed away before we moved, we would have never made the move to a new city 6 hours away that led me to my future. I would have never met Zac and would have never had our gorgeous, crazy daughter. IT WAS ALL MEANT TO BE.
You see, this thing called fate,
It led me to Zachary.
It made us make changes in our life that led us to this point.
It let us make mistakes and learn from them.
It let us move across the country, twice in one year.
It gave us our daughter on such a specific date that all our birthdays align exactly (month and day: May, June, July; 19,20,21).
There are so many things that prove we were meant to be where we are today; that everything that happens in our life is meant to be.
We have both been obsessed with fashion and clothes, being creative, shopping and even photography.
We bought our first “good” camera in 2011 and thought it was cool, always snapping pictures.
We even bought a cheap-o sewing machine from Wal-Mart and made Zakiyah clothes a few years back.
Zac has designed and built furniture and continues to come up with ideas for things to create. We both have worked jobs we hated and finally got fed up fueling someone’s dreams and goals and decided to create our own.
Everything we have experienced and learned the past few years, I feel has prepared us for this new chapter in our lives we call WEARFATE.
If I were to answer “Where do you see yourself in 10 years” in 2006, I’m not sure what my answer would have been, but I know it would have been wrong because things have happened that no one could have anticipated.
If I were asked the same question now, I know the answer: Wherever fate takes me.
Because I believe in fate and I believe that everything happens for a reason.
Well, there’s my little rant for today. I hope you believe in fate a little more now that you’ve heard my story. And always, thank you for reading!
A little letter to my dad:
Here I am, 10 years later, still missing you as much as day 1 without you.
A lot has changed; I’m a college graduate, married with one kid, starting a business, but you know that already because I know you watch over me. I know you’re always right next to me and I know for sure your blood is rushing through my veins because I’m more like you than I thought.
If I could name one thing I learned from you before you left, it’s to work your ass off. Hustle to make your dream come true because it’s all possible. Do whatever it takes to make it happen. Work your ass off for your kids so you can give them anything and everything, even if that means 12, 13, 14 hour work days.
This is the best lesson you could have ever taught me. And the best thing about it is, you didn’t have to say a word. I learned through your actions. That’s the kind of person you were…all action, and that’s the kind of person I strive to be everyday.
I want you to know that you gave me the best 14 years and I never stop thinking about every second of them. I wish you were here for the past 10 years and for the future, but I promise you, I’m in good hands.
I show Zakiyah old pictures of me and you and she always laughs and says “That’s your Dad” And I’m proud to say “Yes, it sure is”.
Love you forever, I’ll see you in my dreams.